Yesterday, I met up two ex colleagues when I was working in Prai. And one I communicated more （she is directly in the division I was in) and whom I would say "know me more" and the other one, as distant away, as we hardly communicated but sort of knew each other's existence in the company. A bit of the background, when I was with the company, the demand of work and expectation of support from internal colleagues are very high, esp on documentations and deadlines. And many, as I understood, would categorise me as "difficult to handle" (of which I have no problem to live with) but one that I could not understand is when they assumed because of that, I hardly have friends in the company...is this kind of assumption and judgement right (and most of them are so called with religion and seems to be religious to me).
It is not as though I care so much of how they see or perceived me, but what I cannot understand is why they made their own assumption and judgement on who I am simply because of what they heard (and from many people whom do not even know me) and what they assumed they knew, from a distance away, and made their own judgement about me and who I am? 白眼真的。。。
And this lady, yesterday, after 11 years I left the company, said in Mandarin,原来你是这样简单的。。。原来你是这样的。。。原来你是那样的。。。。。。Now having a direct chance to meet and talk to you, you are different from what we used to think of you.... (who cares of how you all think of me..right cause you made your own perception, then you live with it, I do not need to follow that, do I).
And coming back on the main topic, that I don't have that many friends in the ex-company? I would not say I have a lot, but significant is the word, and to those whom I am still in touch with and in contact with constantly, they are my friends, and others, which I do not, and did not, has never been in that "friends" category. And one of the best friend I ever had from that company, had passed away a year ago, and whom I miss often (and I do not need to say more..).
But to assume I do not have friends...haha, what a laugh, what a giggle. Assumptions, and self-judgements and wrong perceptions, are what giving rise to problems in this society....today.
Note: Thanks to this friend that knew me well....and being a friend until today.
Bless you all.
Choong
18 Dec 2016.
